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Sad Coincidence

Discussion in 'General Mercedes-Benz Related Discussion' started by ernieh, Sep 9, 2017.

  1. ernieh

    ernieh Senior Member

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    Some of you may remember that 3 and a half years ago my wife and I were involved in a serious car crash in which an uninsured driver hit us sideways on at high speed having earlier hit a Vauxhall Astra containing a Mum, Dad and their 3 kids. That crash left one of the kids in the Astra seriously hurt and my wife with chest injuries which triggered a reaction from which she is unlikely to fully recover.

    He faced 9 charges including causing injury by dangerous driving and was given 5 and a half months to start when his current sentence of 4 years for knife assault and theft with use of an imitation firearm, was completed. Since completing his sentence for our accident, he has again been in jail, I think, for fraud.

    Imagine my surprise when I saw his name appearing in the following article having stolen a car in Tenerife, crashed it and attempted to steal a motorbike, before running off and 4 hours later succumbing to a cocktail of drink and drugs.

    https://www.thescottishsun.co.uk/ne...4/kevin-daffurn-shotts-tourist-scot-tenerife/

    The Daily Mail also reported the accident in a slightly more compassionate way, but I can't seem to find it now.

    The sad thing is that he leaves a partner with a young child and another on the way, as well as his own near family and it is for them that I feel sorry at this sad time.

    Ernie
     
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    A very sad story, a life wasted.

    Your humanity and compassion shines through in how you relate this sad story. If more people thought less about retribution and had a little more compassion, it would make the world a much nicer place.
     
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    Shocking Ernie, you are a very good man that's for sure and I wish the best for you
     
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    You don't seem bitter at all Ernie, good man I say . Very hard to remain compassionate when guys like him get away with such mayhem. Jail is never the deterrent it should be.
    It in no way compensates for your wifes injuries. But at least you have my best wishes, and I'm sure, the other members of the forum.
    Your sunshine shines through my man.
    God bless you and your family.
     
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    You attitude is to be commended, unfortunately I do not feel the compassion some do towards this man.

    He seems to have gone through his life causing misery and mayhem to others.

    I too have been subjected to a terrible experience from someone who went through his life not giving a dam about other people.

    I ended up with 28 stitches to a head wound and later a policeman was stabbed with a screw driver when he went to assist this waste of a human being, this person is still alive and causing violence to many since I.

    I hope this does not make me appear a horrid person as normally I am quite compassionate.

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    Similarly, we had a horrible experience some years bacj with a car repeatedly ramming us. Bloke was high on drugs, whole family known to the police. He had gone out looking for someone to hurt, attacked the police when they found him later.

    Now I don't hate him, but I would not be surprised if I saw in the news that he'd done worse, or that he'd killed himself somehow. And I can't say I'd be that bothered if he wasn't around anymore.

    It may also be coincidence but I read recently of someone with the same surname from the same area leaving his wife and small child in a crashed car after a police chase.
     
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    Maybe a bit harsh but for everyone he leaves behind it is probably the best thing as more often than not , scum breed scum.

    Maybe his kids may have a chance now as daddy wont be around to learn from and i am sure he treats his partner and family the same as he treats everyone else around him , with violence and without any form of respect.

    It is commendable that you can find the strength to even think think about this person but i am afraid that i would not be as considerate as all these people do is wreck the lifes of the decent people around with no consideration for anyone but themselves and their only worry is where / how they are going to get their next hit.

    Kenny
     
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    I have no sympathy for people like this.
     
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    Throw backs, are best out of it for good. He wont be a problem to anyone else again.Sorry for his wife and child he left behind . Ern hope you and your wife have recoverd from your ordeal by now ..
     
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    One of these low lifes can cause great hardship for more people than can be quantified.
    It takes a far better person than I to give them sympathy, give them assistance, and try to show them a better way in life.

    My sympathy goes to the many that have been adversely affected by them, it's a shame that the resources that are generally wasted on these types can't go to helping the true victims toward a degree of recovery.
     
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    One of my firmest beliefs in life is that what goes round comes round. People like this usually come to a sticky end - the problem is the number of entirely innocent people who are affected by the actions of these characters in the meantime. You have my strongest admiration for your attitude ernieh.
     
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    ernieh Senior Member

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    Sorry to hear of your experiences, Headhurts and Yugguy. I hope you have both largely got over them, although I sometimes wonder if one ever gets over such trauma, if not physically, then certainly mentally.

    Ours will certainly remain with us, even if it's just the fact that I am now committed to preparing and administering an IV antibiotic daily to my wife for the foreseeable future. Unfortunately it was her side of the front of the car that got hit as I managed to swerve a little out of the way and he hit us with the rear of his car, as said earlier, coming at us sideways, somersaulting over our roof and then landing on the nearside safety barrier. He came out of his wreck unscathed, but his passenger had some minor cuts and bruises. Although he was clearly shaken after the accident, he at least had the good manners to apologise to my wife, although he blamed the other driver for pushing him off the road. The driver of the Astra wasn't so gracious as he pinned him against the safety barrier and gave him a square 'going over' before the Police arrived, by which time our friend had fled the scene.

    Anyway, I appreciate all your comments and good wishes; it is expressed sentiments like these in difficult times that make this more than just an anonymous car forum.

    Many thanks, Ernie
     
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    Thanks, we are fine and I hope your wife can recover.

    I do sometimes feel sorry for the child that these people once were, that was born innocent and full of potential.
     
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    Seems like he was never going to learn any life lessons and continue to cause misery.

    Shame he went out in oblivion and not on fire in a burning wreck.

    No sympathy from me.
     
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    Terribly sorry to hear about your wife ... and just hope Medical science improves and helps her. Do keep the faith, things are advancing very fast. E.g. At my annual heart checkup they explained that now when my main valve wears out .. they only last 15-20 years; there will no longer be replacement surgery :) they just insert a new one. Its progressed that fast. :)

    I commend your unbelievablly charitable nature, but sorry imo the planet is well rid of him.
    Not only a reckless danger to decent people, but violent to boot!

    As for his wife and child ... yes one has sympathy for the child; but realistically that child is way better off without such an appalling role model. As for the wife .... hmmmm please dont tell me she didnt know what he was like?? Yet still decided to breed with him. :-/

    Personally I really blame the politics behind sentencing.
    5.5 months for hurting a child and ruining your wifes life! Disgraceful.
    I would advocate putting him in a chain gang ... until your wife recovered, and his "wages" being sent on to your family as compensation!

    I bet if he stole £100K they would give him 5.5 years .... its as though they only value money!

    May sound harsh, but had they done that, then that poor woman in the 4x4 wouldnt have been scared out of her mind!

    As you can probably can tell .. my dear departed mother's Christian teachings failed to penetrate.
    As my sister, a Doctor once said to me (after doing a stint of training at a well known asylum for the criminally insane),
    Technically there are Sad, Mad and Bad people; but having worked here I am convinced there are Sad, Mad, Bad and pure f**king Evil people".
     
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    Of course, you're absolutely right in all this, Sub! If you look at the Court of Appeal notes from his 4 year sentence, it was based, among other things, that he was now a reformed character, having a partner, a child, and a permanent job and was prepared to settle down as a family man....He was still under the Court's jurisdiction when he was road testing a customer's vehicle (Renault Clio Club 180 Sport) at what witnesses estimated at 90 MPH coming off a dualled section of road on to a 3 lane road going against him. Hence he had to serve the remainder of the 4 year sentence before starting his sentence for our accident.

    I just hope the girl is able to pick up the pieces of her life and go on to live a normal family life in the future!

    Ernie
     
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    So sad for all involved.
     
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    Prayers for you and yours.
    The ripple effect of this asswipe is sad.
     
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    Thanks to all for their sympathetic comments. We simply carry on with my wife's daily 3 hour slog of antibiotic IV, hoping that it may turn the infection round. At the moment the best we can say is that she is holding her own. However, we had a few days away last week which was enjoyable as it's impossible to arrange anything like a holiday at the moment.

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    When I was 16 some dickhead decided he would spend the afternoon in the pub then jump into his car and drive hell for leather down the motorway. He crossed the central reservation of the motorway and hit the car my mother was driving, bounced of her into another car, bounced off that into a third car and finally came to rest when he hit a bus. No other vehicles hit anything.
    My mother died, not immediately but some hours later in hospital (which given her injuries was probably a blessing).
    The driver who caused it all was left unconscious but otherwise uninjured.

    The driver subsequently got off on a technicality(!) and was heard to be bragging about how he'd killed someone and got away with it.

    It turned out the individual concerned was employed by the Navy dockyard. My dad had been in the Navy 20 years and had risen to a reasonable rank and had friends still there. When they heard the Navy decided to look after its own and this individual was given every dirty job going. He left 12 months later.

    It wasn't the same as your situation as we were let down by the law and never saw proper justice for my mother, however I hope karma has done something to ensure the individual concerned hasn't had an easy time of it since.

    It won't bring back my mother but it does ease my mind thinking of the pain he put me and my family through that hopefully karma will sort things out in the end.

    In your case karma has been not only done but seen to be done, not just for you but all those other individuals whose lives were negatively impacted by his actions.

    Personally I could not forgive someone who deliberately went out of their way to cause pain to others. A genuine accident yes, but not where there was malice/negligence or stupidity involved.
     
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